Just a Bad Dream
What if someone thinks they're living the dream, but their dream actually sucks? Are you supposed to tell them?
And I don't mean a different dream, I mean a legitimately bad dream, what's the policy there?
posted by Molly at
11:20 PM
11 Comments:
what do you mean...
April 3, 2008 7:55 AM
Um...well from my point of view, either you are contributing positively to the world in some way, contributing negatively to the world in some way, or taking up space and not really contributing either way. The only time i would really think about saying something is if a good friend's dream is in some way contributing negatively to the world...for example, they decide that preaching hate is their life's calling. Otherwise, I think everyone's dream is different and they should pursue it.
April 3, 2008 8:12 AM
Wow, this sounds incredibly self-righteous. I don't care who you are, no one has the right to tell someone else that what they want to do with their life isn't worthwhile (with, of course, the already mentioned exception that violence and hate shouldn't be tolerated).
I really think AIESEC tends to encourage this kind of thinking a lot, that everyone's dream should be the same, specifically one involving international service. What we do in AIESEC is not even close to the only way to contribute to the world.
April 3, 2008 3:10 PM
Anonymous, your points may be valid, but no one takes them seriously because you don't even have the balls to stand behind them. Tsk tsk.
April 3, 2008 3:24 PM
I think you tell them. It has to be in a respectful manner, despite any anger or animosity that may be behind your opinion. You must present them with facts, and not allow your emotions to take over.
Yes people dream different dreams, but sometimes things can get so off base there is no WAY it can be The Dream.
April 3, 2008 7:56 PM
Let's not toss around Dream willy nilly here.
April 3, 2008 8:29 PM
I'm pretty sure that "willy nilly" was the word of the day yesterday on Wordsmith.com
April 3, 2008 8:40 PM
I can see challenging a loved one with the phrase "what are you doing with your life?" -if they fall into behavior of hurting family, pushing away friends, and other similarly destructive activity- to get em to wake up and start moving their feet again in a way that isn't hurting the people they love or themselves.
April 3, 2008 8:46 PM
You will notice in my post that "Dream" and "dream" are very carefully and deliberately positioned.
April 3, 2008 9:35 PM
you cant really determine if a dream "sucks" or not...its all in perspective.
and as much as you can mention to someone that their dream sucks in your eyes, they wont change anything unless THEY want to. outside influences are irrelevant when inside motivations dont exist.
and anonymous, contempt is unnecessary. especially towards sara.
April 4, 2008 7:27 AM
there's no shame in having an opinion and sharing it. that's not self-righteous or disrespectful or lacking in perspective.
that's the right thing to do, even if it inhabits a social etiquette grey area.
the other person can always disagree, or at least a conversation can get sparked. no harm done.
April 5, 2008 9:32 AM
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